With the conclusion of 2025, I reflected on my previous essay, Purple Encounters. Full of questions. Even doubts if what I wrote was just a temporary bandage to get through year one? Do we still find refuge in Keanu’s favorite color, purple? Does it still symbolize his spirit watching over us? What could I take with me as we enter year two this May? Another round of birthdays, family outings and holidays came along, but Keanu was not here to blow out his candles, join in our family group hugs or take pictures that showcased his beautiful smile and personality...

Information about a special retreat for bereaved parents, hosted by the Hole in the Wall Gang.

I learned Keanu is a Hawaiian name that means 'cool breeze over the mountains.' In Hawaiian culture, where nature holds deep significance, this name represents a refreshing and gentle force, evoking sentiments of tranquility and comfort which immediately transported me back to a family trip to Maui where we saw the sunrise from the summit of Haleakala volcano.

Grief is a snake that seeps in silently as it strikes. Although not venomous, its bite stings badly and pain heightened as we endure our first round of “the most wonderful time of the year” without our family being complete. We find refuge in Purple, Kiki’s favorite color and its symbolism of his spirit. Full of love, strength and good vibes - our family motto.  

Grief for bereaved parents can be particularly complex. Often filled with a mix of sorrow, anger and longing because it’s unnatural for a child to die before their parent...